This is something I always wonder:
Say a guy comes up to you and asks for your number.. you know his friends are in the distance watching. You know you don’t want to go on a date with him but you also don’t want to reject him in front of all of his friends… is it better to just not give him your number and take a dagger and chuck it at his ego? Or let him look cool in front of his friends and then not respond to any text/calls? OR let him look cool and then text him and say you aren’t interested…?
There are pros and cons to both. The third one to me seems like a complete oxymoron.. he would be thinking, “why give me your number if you aren’t interested?” and obvioiusly we can’t respond with, “look sparky, you should be thanking me. For a number of reasons. I let you look cool getting a girls number in front of your friends AND I’m saving you time and money. So my response to you is, you’re so very welcome.” (jk.. but seriously time is an extremely valuable entity!) But then the other two options he will be left thinking you are stuck up, a brat, whatever guys say these days.
So boys, what would you prefer? I am sincerely curious.
Also another random thought..
I was talking to my friend, (blank.. he won’t let me say his name, ugh). If you know him though, you know he is a handsome devil and quite the catch. Sooo why have I heard people say some negative things about him?
When guys or girls get rejected, they feel stupid and inferior. Feeling stupid/inferior generally leads to you wanting to say something mean about the person to help yourself feel better about getting rejected. I am sure a lot of girls have fallen for *blank* and he maybe hasn’t been interested in return. Which then results in girls running around feeling insecure saying, “ugh he is SUCH a jerk and treats girls like CRAP.”
Well no… he just wasn’t interested.
My theory has been proven time and time again when I will hear a guy say something negative about a friend. He of course, will not know her at all, but since I am her friend I know that he asked her out and she was not interested. So all he knows about her is that a. he was interested and b. she wasn’t.
My friend Sadie came home one day and said, “(so and so) is up at the girl’s apartment above us and he kept saying how rude you are.” Oh really? Because I have never spent two seconds of time with him. The only encounter we had was him asking me out and I didn’t go.
I also have an amazing friend and I once wanted to set him up on a date with this pretty girl. His response was, “Oh no, I asked her out but she doesn’t seem interested, or else I would because she seems like an awesome girl.”
That is the mature response. You obviously saw something in the boy/girl or you wouldn’t have wanted to get to know them. Just because he/she isn’t interested it doesn’t make them a jerk.
P.S. Here is a little sneak peek of the shoot I did today! I’m excited to show you guys because the photographer, hair stylist, make up artist, and dress designer, are all SO talented and for any of you getting married in the near future they would be amazing to use! The lady who made the dress custom designs gowns at a super affordable price. They are absolutely stunning! Soo watch for that post! I’ll give you all their contact info.
P.S.S. No, I’m not engaged, almost engaged, or anything close.