I have never had a husband soo I’m not quite sure what the appropriate etiquette is when meeting your husband’s girl friend. By girl friend I quite literally mean, a friend that happens to be a girl. A friend you never plan to see or call or text or whatever, but when you see each other, of course you say hi. Well I CAN tell you what you shouldn’t do. I saw a friend the other day at the gym and he came to say hello. He was recently married so I asked him about married life. As he was responding, a girl walked up and this was the rest of the convo:
Me: “Oh is this your cute wife?!?”
Boy: “Yeah!! (blank), this is Amber, we were in the same ward at Alpine Village!”
Wife: “I know” (looks pissed and walks off)
Ohhh umm… Well that was unnecessarily awkward and rather uncomfortable. Anyways….
I seriously have felt so awful about that whole scenario ever since and I have no idea why. I didn’t do anything wrong.. I said hi to her husband, DID NOT give him a hug or flirt in any, way, shape, or form, asked him about married life, and I have never met this girl, I was friendly to her, but yet I still felt so bad for making her mad. Why was she so mad?! This is a boy I have ZERO history with. Not even one date. Just simple friends.
I didn’t know if I should write this, with the slim chance of this couple reading this.. but then I thought maybe she should read this? That is not how you meet someone. Especially one of your husband’s friends. I mean when I am dating someone, I want to make an effort to be friends with his friends.. I am sure that is how most married couples are as well. Or at least I thought… maybe not though.
It’s kind of ridiculous how excited I get when I see you have a new post! Haha they are always so entertaining.
Love your blog! I am married, and it was borderline awkward when meeting my husbands old girl friends. (The kind you are talking about!) But, I had to realize my two best friends before my husband were boys, and he was awesome at taking them in as his own friends, so BAM! I started being nice to his old friends. Plus, it’s a jealousy factor. Don’t be jealous, it makes it so much easier, you gotta remember your husband picked you, right? Dang girls.
P.S. please do a post on the last bachelor episode! I have been waiting for it! I love reading them. (:
This is hilarious and ridiculous. If it was an old long-term serious girlfriend I can understand an awkward encounter. But rude? Unnecessary. And to just a friend?! Say hello and introduce yourself. Normal human behavior. Hahah
Lisa- Haha I love that ! You are the sweetest! I LOVEE reading your posts just as much!
Taylor- Yeah totally know what you mean! I guess I have just gotten used to it but she was so rude it was insane! Yeah, definitely don’t want to be the jealous wife! Nothing worse I am sure!
Jess- RIGHT?! mayyybe if I was an ex girlfriend… MAYBE but not even that in my opinion! Its just not okay!
amber… its because you are pretty…just sayin! and she is jealous. girls are rude and insecure! even married ones. you shouldn’t feel bad.
I kinda get it, although if my hubby were talking to some hot babe at the gym and I walked up all sweaty and wilted (bc that’s always the way this scene plays out) I would try and handle it gracefully, the ‘Never Let Em See You Sweat-no pun-Routine’. Then I’d go back to the stairstepper and and climb really fast and think of how good my butt is gonna look!